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How To Deal With Grief and Trauma

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35 Sarah Stillman | How Dealing With Trauma Does Not Prevent But Helps Prepare For Future Trauma Part 2

April 10, 2023 • Season 3 • Episode 35

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Part 2

Today on the podcast I am speaking with Sarah Stillman, who suffered preeclampsia and concealed placental abruption, leading to the stillbirth of her first son. Having been sexually assaulted earlier on in her life in a medical environment, she was very clear about needing to take charge of her medical care to avoid further traumatization. Unfortunately, the developments her pregnancy experienced leading to emergency care, resulted in her experiencing more trauma.

We had such a rich conversation that this became a double episode. Make sure you listen to the second part which is going to be published a week after this in which we dive much deeper into the topic of pregnancy after loss and how to deal with the trauma of sexual assault.

About this week’s guest

Sarah is one of Nathaniel’s two mamas (yes, he has two moms)! Nathaniel is Sarah and Amy’s firstborn son conceived through IVF with a traumatic ending in severe early-onset preeclampsia, placental abruption, emergency C-section, a brief NICU stay and death within his mother’s arms. Sarah took to grieving, finding out what happened, and planning for future pregnancy like a full-time job, and in the midst of the uncertainty and haze of grief, identified resources that helped answer critical questions. In honour of her son, she created whenmybabydied.com which aims to offer families a centralized resource hub of information and answers for the question no parent ever thought they’d have to find. Sarah is currently pregnant with Nathaniel’s sibling who is expected to be born in April 2023. She lives with her wife, two dogs, and Nathaniel’s warrior spirit in Central Massachusetts.

Check out Sarah’s links:

When My Baby Died

Topics discussed in this episode
Part Two

Empty arm syndrome
Pregnancy after loss
Sexual assault
The effect of prior trauma on pregnancy
Grieving the loss of having planned for a healing event when it turns into a new trauma