How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
You can't go through life without experiencing loss and trauma the question is how do we deal and live with the grief and pain? Join Nathalie Himmelrich, grief expert and author, talking to people who have experienced grief and trauma first-hand. If you want to be inspired by others who traveled through their grief and trauma, found that healing is possible, and came out the other end knowing they can survive and thrive in life after loss. For more info: www.nathaliehimmelrich.com
How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
178 The Many Faces of Trauma | Complex Trauma & C-PTSD (Intro-Level)
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Complex trauma forms through repeated or prolonged exposure to threat or chronic stress—often in contexts where escape isn’t possible and where relationships or systems meant to provide safety are also part of the problem. In this intro-level episode, we clarify the difference between single-incident PTSD patterns and complex trauma, and we outline how C-PTSD discussions often include PTSD symptoms plus broader impacts on emotion regulation, self-concept, relationships, and agency. Using simple polyvagal-informed language, we explore what it means when protection becomes the nervous system's default—and why that’s an adaptation, not a character trait. We end with a short practice that helps you name your state and offer one small supportive need.
In this episode, you’ll learn
- What complex trauma is (repeated exposure + limited escape + often relational/systemic)
- How complex trauma differs from single-incident trauma patterns
- Common C-PTSD pattern areas (intro-level): regulation, self-concept, relationships, meaning/agency
- A polyvagal lens on “sticky” protection states and relational sensitivity
- Why phases of healing matter: stabilisation, integration, reconnection
- Practical first steps that reduce shame and build agency
- A grounding practice to identify the state and offer a need
Grounding practice (2–3 minutes): “Name the State, Offer a Need”
- Orient to one neutral object
- Name your state (activated/shutdown/in-between)
- Ask: “What would help 5%?” and choose one need
- Phrase: “This is a protective state. I can support it.”
- Longer exhale
Check the website for the free resources offered for both those affected by trauma and those supporting them.
What’s next: Dissociation: The Mind’s Emergency Exit (Intro-Level)
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