How To Deal With Grief and Trauma

177 The Many Faces of Trauma | Helping Professionals & Partners: Secondary and Vicarious Trauma

Nathalie Himmelrich Season 17 Episode 177

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When you support someone through trauma—professionally or personally—your nervous system is not a neutral observer. Secondary traumatic stress can create trauma-like symptoms through exposure to others’ distress, while vicarious trauma can gradually shift your beliefs about safety, trust, and meaning. In this episode, we define both terms in plain language, explore why “empathic contagion” happens through co-regulation (polyvagal-informed), and name common signs like sleep disruption, intrusion, irritability, numbness, and saturation. We also cover practical protection strategies: boundaries as care, transitions, shared load, and ventral restoring practices. We close with a short “Return-to-Self Reset” to help you care without carrying.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • The difference between secondary traumatic stress and vicarious trauma
  • Why helpers can absorb activation through co-regulation (polyvagal lens)
  • Common signs (non-diagnostic): intrusion, fatigue, cynicism, numbness, over-responsibility
  • What helps: boundary clarity, transitions, shared load, permission to be affected without collapsing, ventral restoration
  • A grounding/reset practice for after exposure

Grounding practice (2–3 minutes): “Return-to-Self Reset”

  • Gentle shake-out to discharge load
  • “My name is… I’m here in…” (orientation)
  • Hand on chest + belly (containment)
  • Phrase: “I can care without carrying”
  • Longer exhale

Check the website for the free resources offered for both those affected by trauma and those supporting them.

What’s next: Complex Trauma & C-PTSD (Intro-Level)

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