How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
You can't go through life without experiencing loss and trauma the question is how do we deal and live with the grief and pain? Join Nathalie Himmelrich, grief expert and author, talking to people who have experienced grief and trauma first-hand. If you want to be inspired by others who traveled through their grief and trauma, found that healing is possible, and came out the other end knowing they can survive and thrive in life after loss. For more info: www.nathaliehimmelrich.com
How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
176 The Many Faces of Trauma | Community Shock: Disasters & Public Events (No War Content)
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Community shock happens when a public tragedy or disaster disrupts a community’s sense of safety and predictability, creating a ripple of nervous-system activation far beyond those directly involved. This episode is the Trauma Types companion to S16E161, where we explored collective grief and trauma after sudden tragedy. Here, we zoom in on community shock as a trauma pathway: why people cycle through hypervigilance, numbness, anger, and exhaustion; how media exposure can keep the nervous system activated; and why meaning-making can turn into blame, rumour cycles, or polarisation. We end with a short grounding practice designed to reduce helplessness by focusing on a “circle of control.”
In this episode, you’ll learn
- What community shock is and how it spreads through proximity, identification, and exposure
- How this episode connects to S16E161 (collective grief + trauma after sudden tragedy)
- Polyvagal-informed patterns: mobilised protection, shutdown, and cycling
- Ripple effects across groups: directly affected, witnesses, helpers, and the wider community
- Why meaning-making can intensify blame, rumours, and polarisation
- What helps: media dosing, routine, choice-based community support, body-first regulation
- A grounding practice to restore a sense of control and support
Grounding practice (2–3 minutes): “Circle of Control”
- Draw a small circle on your palm
- Name 3 things you can control right now
- Name 2 supports you can lean on
- Phrase: “I can’t control everything. I can support my nervous system today.”
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What’s next: Helping Professionals & Partners: Secondary and Vicarious Trauma
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