How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
You can't go through life without experiencing loss and trauma the question is how do we deal and live with the grief and pain? Join Nathalie Himmelrich, grief expert and author, talking to people who have experienced grief and trauma first-hand. If you want to be inspired by others who traveled through their grief and trauma, found that healing is possible, and came out the other end knowing they can survive and thrive in life after loss. For more info: www.nathaliehimmelrich.com
How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
173 The Many Faces of Trauma | Society-Shaped Trauma (Part 1): Discrimination & Minority Stress
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Discrimination and minority stress can create a chronic nervous-system load: not only dealing with the moment, but also anticipating bias, managing risk, and constantly scanning for safety and belonging. In this episode, we explore minority stress as an accumulation of experiences—overt discrimination, microaggressions, stereotyping, exclusion, and the invisible effort of code-switching or masking. Using simple polyvagal-informed language, we look at how chronic vigilance can keep the body in mobilised protection or shutdown, and we offer practical ways to support regulation without minimising the reality of the environment. We close with a short grounding practice focused on orienting to neutral and welcoming cues, and anchoring a sense of belonging in the self.
In this episode, you’ll learn
- A clear definition of minority stress and why it belongs in a trauma-types series
- How accumulation and anticipation create chronic nervous-system strain
- Polyvagal-informed patterns: hypervigilance and shutdown in response to “not-safe-enough” environments
- The “double load” of code-switching, masking, and constant self-monitoring
- Common signs (non-diagnostic): tension, sleep disruption, avoidance, over-performing, numbness
- What helps: low-demand belonging, boundary micro-skills, resourcing after exposure, supportive validation
- A grounding practice designed for belonging and present-moment safety cues
Grounding practice (2–3 minutes): “Orient + Belonging Cue”
- Find one neutral object
- Find one welcoming cue (colour, light, texture)
- Supportive posture with feet on the floor
- Phrase: “I belong to myself” (or “I’m allowed to take up space”)
- Longer exhale release
Check the website for the free resources offered for both those affected by trauma and those supporting them.
What’s next: Society-Shaped Trauma (Part 2): Poverty, Insecurity & Social Exclusion
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