How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
You can't go through life without experiencing loss and trauma the question is how do we deal and live with the grief and pain? Join Nathalie Himmelrich, grief expert and author, talking to people who have experienced grief and trauma first-hand. If you want to be inspired by others who traveled through their grief and trauma, found that healing is possible, and came out the other end knowing they can survive and thrive in life after loss. For more info: www.nathaliehimmelrich.com
How To Deal With Grief and Trauma
172 The Many Faces of Trauma | When the Environment Is the Threat: Chronic Stress Without an Exit
Not all trauma comes from a single event. Sometimes the trauma pathway is the environment itself—ongoing pressure, instability, or threat with little realistic ability to escape or recover. In this episode, we explore “chronic stress without an exit” as a nervous system pattern that can keep the body stuck in mobilised protection (wired, urgent, hypervigilant) and, over time, slide into shutdown (numb, foggy, depleted). Using simple polyvagal-informed language, we name common “invisible injuries” that can look like burnout or personality changes, and offer realistic support strategies that don’t rely on toxic positivity or impossible self-care. We close with a one-minute downshift practice designed for busy, high-load lives.
In this episode, you’ll learn
- What chronic stress without an exit is (and why the “no-exit” part matters)
- Why this trauma pathway is often minimised or missed
- Polyvagal-informed patterns: stuck mobilisation, shutdown, and cycling
- Common signs (non-diagnostic): sleep disruption, irritability, guilt, numbness, withdrawal, fatigue
- What helps realistically: micro-recovery, load reduction, consistent support, and “islands of safety”
- A short grounding practice for quick nervous system downshifting
Grounding practice (1–2 minutes): “1-Minute Downshift”
- Unclench jaw, drop shoulders slightly
- 3 extended exhales with a gentle hum
- Phrase: “I’m allowed to have a small pause”
- Name one tiny next step that reduces the load
Check the website for the free resources offered for both those affected by trauma and those supporting them.
What’s next: Society-Shaped Trauma (Part 1): Discrimination & Minority Stress
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