How To Deal With Grief and Trauma

89 Martina Sandles | Grieving Parents 10 Years Later

Season 9 Episode 89

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About this week’s episode

Welcome to a special series of podcast episodes in honour of the 10th anniversary of my first book, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple, published in 2014. To mark this milestone, I’m reconnecting with the same parents I initially interviewed for the book, offering a unique opportunity to revisit their stories and gain a deeper understanding of their journeys—now, with the perspective of a decade.
In recognition of October being Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, this series is dedicated to showcasing how grieving parents have coped with their loss and trauma over the years. These episodes aim to offer a long-term view of life after the loss of a pregnancy or infant, providing comfort, insight and hope to those who may still be navigating their own grief.
Additionally, I’m excited to offer Healing Steps, my audio course, at 25% off this month. Use the coupon code HSOCT24 to access the course and begin your journey toward healing.

About this week’s guest

Martina Sandles is Hannah’s mother, who would have been 39 years old this year. Here is what she shares with me all these years later: “Quite a few of my friends had weddings or became grandparents and are involved with a little once again. I am grieving the lost dream of all those milestones we didn't get to experience with her, and I still wonder what kind of woman she would have been and what path in life she would have chosen. We could see characteristics emerging and loved her personality, traits I feel we need in the world. It is more a dream of the 'what ifs' and wishing that her siblings would have had a big sister to go to or who would have modelled things for them. Hannah, and my/our living with her till her death, has shaped me and my development so much, I wonder what parts of me would have lived on in her. Not that this is passed on consciously, but by living with each other, sharing values and ways of living.”

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